February 1, 2025
It’s 1994 and a coworker shows me a picture of her boys, the youngest less than a year, dressed in girl’s clothing. I ask her why he is dressed like that and she says she was so upset when she was having another boy so to make herself feel better she bought all girl clothes and dressed him like a girl because she didn’t want another boy. This was my first taste of the mental illness happening to people to the point of changing their child to fit their selfish wants. I was young and about to have my first child so didn’t say anything except thought, “I simply just want a healthy child.”
It’s a Saturday morning in 2019, and a young child, looking less than ten years old, walks into the clinic with his father. They both look more than a bit tattered. The child’s hair is not combed and the clothes look dirty. I don’t think too much of it because maybe it’s been a rough morning for both of them. I mean, who goes to the urgent care clinic put together?
I get the information from the father about the child and I notice, as I have before with other children, that what I see online is the given birth name of a female child, but the name has changed as she is in the middle of transitioning. I cannot say anything, but check the child in as the name the father has said. Yes, I suppose the little girl is looking like a little boy the way she is dressed and how her hair is cut but she looks sad and is not speaking. Again, I try to assume it is because she possibly isn’t feeling well.
When children come out of their visit, I pull out a basket of stickers so they can choose what they would like to take home. This particular little girl picks out the girliest of stickers. Now, could she have picked out the stickers that most boys do? Sure, she could, no problem. BUT she obviously wanted the girlie stickers and yet her father is claiming she wants to be a boy. This reminds me of a friend of mine who was trying to get pregnant the same time I was getting pregnant with my second child. She said she didn’t care what she had but just wanted a baby but her husband, on the other hand, was adamant about having another boy and no girls. I just don’t understand this thinking. He had his priorities way out of wack as I remember her telling me that she and her little boy were in a car accident once and she called him. He never asked how they were but instead concerned about the car. They moved away and we never stayed in touch but I do think of what ever become of things.
When working at another clinic, we had a work meeting and I brought this problem up, asking why we are allowing transitioning to start happening at such young ages. I was assured that the children, as young as two, WANTED this and they go through years of counseling to make sure it is what they want. I said in the meeting, “Who here knew what they wanted to do when they were 18?” In the entire meeting, no one said they knew what they 100% wanted to do. A couple people said, they thought they knew what they wanted to do but that changed with age. Then I said, “My point! How the heck does a child even know what they want to do? Let alone what they want to be?!” One person actually said, “I never thought of that.” The room was silent, and one doctor finally spoke up and said he agreed with me. After that, I wasn’t very popular, but that’s okay.
Fast forward to 2020: I have two friends, each of them expecting their first grandchild. One friend was already told by her daughter that the child would be raised “gender neutral” and until the child decided what he or she wanted to be, it would be a they/them. The other friend was less suspecting and she told me that the entire baby’s room was in black and gray. I asked her if the clothing was black and gray as well and she was surprised I knew. I then told her to get in that child’s room and pray over her/him. Pray over the entire house. I told her that soon enough she would find out that the child would be raised “gender nuetral”. Sure enough, baby was born and was given gender neutral names and is a they/them. She was so saddened but I told her SHE could make a difference in this child’s life even if the parent’s are drinking the kool-aid.
THEY/THEM?!?! Do people not even realize what they are doing to the mental health of this society? I cannot imagine anyone doing this to their child, purposefully meaning to cause harm, but then I wonder what is their angle? I have tried to understand and looked much into all of it and I am sure some may think this sounds extreme but the only word that keeps coming to mind is demonic. This has to be stopped NOW! I have been able to have some good conversation with people who have worn the pins “they/they” and even conversation with parents who have called their child a “they/them”. This “in your face” agenda pushed by parents, doctors, and even people in social work is out of control making for mass confusion with those already questioning who they are, somehow believing the lie that they are not good enough and must do anything, at all costs, to change and be accepted. So much of the nonsense could be avoided if you take away what you’ve been given them at their fingertips since they were toddlers.
“Furries” started becoming a thing during this time as well. How do you resolve these problems? Get the parents pushing for it a mental health evaluation immediately and if you have a child who claims they are a cat or whatever their imagination thinks up, then treat them as such. When your child needs to start eating only as a cat or dog does or sleeping where they do or hey, furries don’t need devices either, my guess is they will quickly change their corrupt stinking thinking. Can people not see that these children are screaming for attention with their actions?! Again, put down the devices. You’re the parent! A child does not need unlimited screen time of any sort. Just say, “NO!” I loved this scene from Sound of Hope. Can we not get common sense to come back like this?
https://www.facebook.com/SoundOfHopeFilm/videos/sound-of-hope-in-theaters-july-4/485084113936610
Later, my daughter was in a peer group of adults and she needed to be interviewed by a phychologist to see if all adults worked well together, I guess. One of the first questions she asked her was, “What are your pronouns?” My daughter just started at her as if thinking, “Are you for real?!” but instead just chuckled. Then the therapist looked at me for a response. I told the gal, “I think it is obvious what my daughter’s pronouns are which is why you go the response you did.” She said she has to ask because that is their structure of things now. I told her that was pure foolishness for parents, and counselors, to encourage children to change their identities.
I then asked her if I could share with her what I have shared with others, and she was willing to listen. I asked her if she understands Schizophrenia and she said she did. I asked her If she truly understands the depth of that mental illness as well as understand how detrimental it was to encourage the behavior of changing genders, specifically they/them and at such young ages. She asked, “how so?” I then went on to tell her that I have a loved one who has schizophrenia developed from an infection and he has had to learn how to cope with that. I told her I would guess anyone who has that mental illness would do anything to have a life without it. I went on to tell her that anyone claiming they/them is basically saying they are “multiple” people. They/them is used to refer to two or more people or things She said she had never thought of that before! Say what?!?! You’re the paid therapist!!
At my daughter’s first meeting, she was with a group of young adults while I was in the group with all the parents. One parent made it very obvious that her child was a they/them by saying it over and over again when talking about her child. No one else talked about their child as a he/her over and over again but instead we used their names. When we got into the car, I asked my daughter how her meeting was and she said it went well. I then asked if anyone in the group was a they/them and she said, “no”. Interesting, huh?
During those weeks of the meetings, the young adults talked on the phone and had conversations on what interested them. The parents’ job was to listen in to see if everyone was communicating well. (this was a young adult peers group who all were on the spectrum) When this particular child talked with my child, they easily found what they both liked. specifically American Girl and had good conversation. At our next meeting, the mom came to me and told me she would like her child to be friends with my child outside of group. You see, this child is very down and sad and my child, as she does with everyone, pulled this precious one out of the pit for a little bit that day when they talked. I prayed how to handle this because I am not going to purposefully expose my child on a regular basis to someone who is ignoring their mental illness but instead being encouraged.
As the weeks went on, everyone knew where each other stood in their beliefs as conversations continued, and Who we followed was not going to fit that mom’s agenda for her daughter, so she stopped conversing with me by the end of our time together so I didn’t even have to have that hard talk with her. Sadly, when the young adults all ended their peer group, this one child was still so very sad and mom always seemed annoyed with her. Well, I guess if my parent tried to change my gender, calling me an “IT”, I may be sad and super confused, too.
Why is this encouraged by counselors, doctors, parents? We are creating such an unhealthy environment. Since I have seen all this transitioning happening. the “trans” movement has taken over. I have watched many videos to try to understand why this is happening. I have watched people explain why they are “trans” and others who encourage their friends and family members to change.
When I have watched many videos on this, including the infamous Jazz, my heart just aches. As most know, in the Jennings family, the mom is the leader of the home and she wanted to do this to put their son on display and openly have him mutilated. The dad and siblings, normalizing the insanity. Jazz gets to a point where he won’t keep open the wound made to mimic a vagina and the mom tells her friends that it is going to close up and if she has to she will go insert it in him herself. I almost threw up. I could not believe that her friends affirmed that this behavior is OK and that the entire world watching this, as a whole, thinks that it is normal to say you are going to sexual assault your child to keep their manmade vagina open. Warning: this is beyond disturbing.
The below is a continuation of manipulation and yet this is still applauded? This poor boy doesn’t like who he is. His parents didn’t like who he was, and deep down, he knows it. It breaks my heart.
Since, Jazz encourages people to be their “authentic self” yet cannot be his own unique, authentic self which is so very sad. He has been manipulated and brain washed since he was a toddler. Praying for him to find himself and for those in his life who are encouraging him to not be authentic will leave his life or realize what they have done to make this happen and make amends.
Note to Jazz:
You are perfect just the way you were. God does not make mistakes. You are not a mistake, and I am so sorry for those who have made you believe you were born wrong. I cannot imagine what it has been like to live as you have. There are people who are waiting to help you.
Praying for you!,
Jennifer
Something else I have noticed is that everyone who is changing themselves is identifying themselves as “trans’ which is so unhealthy. I don’t think, ever in my life, I have identified myself as a “heterosexual” because that is not what I believe others want to really know about me. I also cannot imagine putting images or video on social media of my husband and I showing all our friends and family that we are indeed in a heterosexual relationship. There is no point. Possibly another blog for another time of social medias, such as Facebook, being fake…it is showing people what you want them to think of you. I know this is huge in the 20s and 30s age range.
I believe our age of social media has encouraged all to put out there what you identify as so as to be encouraged and accepted? I have no idea the reasons behind everything. What I would love to ask these trans people is this, “WHO are you?”
Something I have been asking to my youngest blessing is, “WHO are you?” and then she tells me her name! Then I ask, “WHOSE are you?” and then she usually says something about being God’s daughter. I don’t want her to forget WHO she is in this world of messed up, jumbled confusion. It is so important that we don’t encourage people to identify as “trans”, etc. This makes for unhealthy stinking thinking! We all have many different hats we wear….. father, mother daughter, sister, brother, boss, coworker, patient, client, etc. but we must remember WHO we are at the core because at any moment in time, all those titles could be taken from you. To fully focus on WHO you are, your NAME, and what you were created to be and do, is the healthiest thinking of all. And might I say, focusing on your Creator will get your eyes off the circumstances around you so you can start seeing things with a different lens.
“I am a child of God, born to make a difference, wherever He places me.”
The people waving signs that say what their sexual preferences are, really are just trying to find their place in this world. If you are reading this and are someone who has encouraged and even taken a friend or family member to mutilate their body, think about what you have done. You are telling them, “you aren’t good the way you are!”, “you’re a mistake”, “let’s fix you”. How would you feel if you were in their shoes?! Pretty unloved and unwanted, I am sure, and you might just start believing those lies. I also believe if you are encouraging and do this to a child, you need help NOW. The first step is admitting you have a problem. Do this for the sake of your loved one.
Working with Memory Care patients, we don’t ever say to them, “you are trans, you are a they, you are heterosexual”, etc. That would just be silly. What we tell them is WHO they are and that he or she is a beautiful person who has and is making a difference in the world!
If you are the person who has been encouraged to mutilate your body for the sake of fitting in or feeling better about yourself, know that you will not feel better. Maybe for a time, you will feel good because getting something new may seem exciting, but it is short lived. You will still feel awful about yourself until you realize WHO you are and that God didn’t make no junk! Surround yourself with people who love who you were and are!
Blessings,
Jennifer
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